This is the current Preface to a book I hope to publish soon. It is intended to help those struggling with chaos in their relationship that may be caused by undiagnosed and misunderstood Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder . I have had counselors identify my spouse as having a personality disorder , will never get better and I need to consider leaving. Video summary is at the end. PREFACE: For years, I witnessed the chaos that ADHD creates in a family when it goes unrecognized, the storm of forgotten appointments, unfinished conversations, and a fatigue no amount of sleep could erase. When diagnosis finally arrives late in life, it reframes every misunderstanding, every argument, and all the accumulated guilt. A revelation brings both relief and reckoning, relief that there's a name for the invisible barriers and reckoning with the years spent lost in confusion. But the path to accurate diagnosis is often littered with professional misunderstandings that nearly destr...